The court generally doesn't doing anything unless there hasn't been any activity for like a year...then they send out a notice and if there is no response from either party, they dismiss the case.
What you can do is write the STBX a letter (send certified with return receipt) and give her say...two weeks to respond. If she doesn't, the file a Motion to Set and Certificate of Readiness with the courts. You can find the form at:
Make sure you serve the other party.
You should get a hearing date and if they don't show, then you request a "default":
If you air your dirty linen in public, expect people to comment on the skid marks!