Okay, I'm sorry but, you must have misunderstood my posting. I NEVER agreed to a lesser amount. The only thing I did was tell him that he could start paying again once he had a job. And it was discussed at that time that once he got a job he would pay the weeks/months that he missed. I never once said it was okay for him to pay a lesser amount. I told him that if he did want to he could go get it changed if it was true that he had no money. He and his girlfriend decided that he couldn't pay the full amount and THEY came up w/the amount that he's paying. AND he hasn't paid ANYTHING in the past two months. So, I think that constitutes me trying to get what he owes. It is not my responsibility to give him all the details on how to go about getting it reduced. He is a grown man and is very capable of finding this info out for himself. So, I do NOT feel obligated in any way to lead him in the right direction. As a matter of fact I think that just the fact that I did give him ample time to get it reduced (or at least start the process) is very kind on my part. And this isn't the first time that he hasn't paid.
As far as him "forgetting"... 1st off: I would think that if he is as bad off money wise as he says it would be a priority to lessen any debts that he may have. 2nd: I did give him constant reminders and even warned him of the consequences that would occur to him if he didn't get this straightened out such as a suspended license, considering he is a truck driver and if they suspended his license he would have no job at all.. you'd think he'd make it a priority to avoid this at all costs. And no he wouldn't just lose his job and be okay with it because he and his girlfriend have a child that needs support also.
Hopefully I cleared things up a little so, that it doesn't seem like I'm just going after him for the heck of it. I've been dealing w/this for 4 years now and I'm just tired of him not keeping up w/his responsibilities.
Also, just to let you know how much I do go out of my way regarding him... He has never ONCE attempted to make any arrangements to get our girls for the summer or any other time. I'm always the one that makes the arrangements and does the traveling so, that they can go see their father. And it's not just across the state, I live in MD and he's in TX. And b4 that I was in Hawaii and he was in TN. Those are not cheap/quick trips. Don't get me wrong though.. I don't do it for him, I do it for them. But, at the same time... he's had it pretty easy for the last 4 years. Also, did I mention that he is supposed to pay 50% of all medical and dental bills? Well, he has NEVER paid a penny. Our oldest daughter has severe asthma and has been in and out of hospitals for the majority of her life. And trust me.. ER visits aren't cheap. But, I've never pushed the issue.. I shouldn't have to. He is not my child and I shouldn't have to give him directions on every single step.
Forgive me if I sound a little irritated, I am. However, I don't mean to take it out on you or anyone in the forum.